Welcome to PostpartumDads

Postpartum Depression (PPD) is a serious illness that impacts the entire family.  Without effective intervention it can cause great suffering and serious damage to families. In rare cases it can lead to suicide or murder.  However, in most cases, with proper treatment and support, a woman and her family can fully recover from PPD.  This website is intended to help dads and families by providing firsthand information and guidance through the experience of PPD.  This site also includes information and resources that can be used by professionals to assist families dealing with PPD.  We hope that you find the information on this website useful and we welcome comments and suggestions.

3 Responses to Welcome to PostpartumDads

  1. postpartumdads says:

    Tara,
    I think if you were to talk to my wife she would tell you that she firmly believes the depression she suffered was caused by the hormonal changes she experienced while stopping breastfeeding. She was doing great the first 3 months, spiraled down to a low point after stopping breastfeeding, took medication to help recover, and is doing fantastic now. The same cycle repeated with our second child.

    Obviously this is not the case for all women. All women face different circumstances and need different types of support and resources. My goal is to help dads understand what they may be up against and try to support them.

    My biggest concern is many women do not get any help and suffer depression that could be treated. This often destroys the family and causes damage that could be avoided. I hope that we can remove the stigma surrounding PPD so that it’s not an insult to suggest that someone may need medication to recover like my wife did.

  2. Marco Clarot says:

    My wife is currently in treatment for postpartum depression. My son is 6 months old and we have a daughter who is almost 4 years old. I have left work early several times and taken days off to try and help. She says She doesn’t have my support but I need to work to pay our bills. We are very tight with money and I have the opportunity to work weekends to make extra money but my wife doesn’t want me to. I need to work these hours to pay our rent and bills. I don’t know what to do or say to her anymore. I feel like I’m gonna lose my mind. I’m always stressed and I’be gotten to the point were I dread getting a call or text from her when I’m at work.

  3. Steve says:

    My girlfriend is being treated for postpartum anxiety and OCD. She has a lot of family issues from the past with her parents as well as PTSD from an attack she suffered before we met. It seems like everyday is a struggle just to get her to listen to me. Its like im fighting against a whole list of worries, thoughts, etc. she constantly has on her mind. I dread asking her to hand me a spoon or asking her a simple question because it then turns into me having to repeat myself 4 or 5 times because she isnt focused, is still “waking up”, or she is worried about the baby dying every time she turns around. My main argument with her is that she expects me to listen when she talks to me but when its her turn to listen, I end up becoming incredibly frustrated repeating and explaining everything multiple times. And then she says im a jerk or why am i so cold to her? She has low self esteem and no matter how supportive i try to be, she is constantly sidetracked by instrusive thoughts of something happening to the baby or having to deal with her parents. What i manage to finally get out of her is that she dreads conflict with them but now she also dreads being around me because we argue daily. So im left wondering if we should even be together because I truly care about her but where has the love gone? I love our son deeply and he is just a big ball of energy and joy but i feel so empty not having a partner to share it with….much less talk to. Instead of getting mad, i try to just leave the room and distance myself but i know the problem will still be there. She is in a constant fog and theres nothing i can do about it. She doesnt seem the least bit motivated to go to her therapist and says shes waiting for them to call her. My parents and friends of mine are supportive of me and think that maybe the relationship has run its course and its time to get out but im stuck with the idea that im abandoning her. She has on more than one occasion told me that all i really want to do is leave her with nothing and everything is in my name (car, etc.). So this kind of stuff weighs on my mind. I would and will continue to do everything to support my son but as far as my girlfriend, i dont know if our relationship can be saved. Sometimes i think life would be so much easier if we were seperated but still being good parents together. I work and go to school and try to help out as much as i can. I get angry frequently because it feels like she isnt listening to me but expects me to help her out more which i feel is unfair. I know she has PPD and anixety but it often feels like im going up to bat 9 out of 10 times in our relationship with nothing to really aim for.

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